Happy, Smart, and Useful | Derek Sivers

There are three things to consider when making life-size decisions:

  • what makes you happy
  • what’s smart (long-term good for you)
  • what’s useful to others

We have a tendency to forget one of these. For example:

smart and useful (not happy)

This is the stereotype of the strict parent that says:

“You will go to the best school, get perfect grades, get a degree in law or medicine, and make lots of money. What you want does not matter. This is what’s best for you and your family.”

Smart and useful isn’t bad. It’s rational, like a machine. But happiness is the oil. Without it, the friction kills the engine.

happy and smart (not useful)

This is the stereotype of the “lifestyle design” or self-help addict:

Always learning, always improving, and obsessively focused on how to be happy and create the perfect life.

They look for “passive income” instead of focusing on doing something that’s really valuable to others.

Happy and smart isn’t bad. The self-focus feels great at first. But you can’t actually pull yourself up by your bootstraps. Ultimately you must be lifted by those around you.

happy and useful (not smart)

This is the stereotype of the charity volunteers:

After getting expensive university degrees, they spend years flying full-time to exotic impoverished places to dig wells and thatch roofs.

But if a graduate’s time could be worth $200 per hour, yet they’re doing work that locals could do better for $10 per hour (and without airfare and hotels), then they’re actually doing a disservice to others. Read “Efficient Charity: Do Unto Others” and “The Reductive Seduction of Other People’s Problems” for more thoughts on that.

In this same category are people who stay at the same job for life without improvement, and the musicians who always perform at the local venue but never make a good recording.

Happy and useful isn’t bad. They’re doing good for the world, so it’s hard to find fault. But they’ve got great intentions but lame strategies — wasted effort and unused potential.

just happy (not smart or useful)

This is the parable of the Mexican fisherman.

“Just be happy. That’s all that matters.” It sounds so simple, it must be profoundly true, right?

But, like Aesop’s fable of “The Ant and the Grasshopper”, you’ll be full of regret if you think of nothing but today, and don’t prepare for tough times.

And you’ll be all kinds of unrewarded if you only serve yourself, not others.


I sound critical, but I’m writing this to myself as a reminder.

When a life or plan feels ultimately unsatisfying, I find it’s because I’ve forgotten to include:

  • what makes me happy
  • what’s smart (long-term good for me)
  • what’s useful to others


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